Everything is cozy and warm over here…

Coolest Woman Drinks Coffee with Cream

It’s the winding down of winter, and everything is cozy and warm over here… At least as far as anyone might notice. There’s a chill breeze blowing off the mountains, birds are singing in the trees, and there’s plenty to be grateful for. And I’m exceedingly grateful for all of it.

And then there’s the struggle.

There’s always a struggle. Life tends to bring them around at the moment when  you think you’ll be okay, another one surfaces, and you begin to wonder if it was all just a farce. Could be. Could be real. Maybe, it could be just a way to give you a breather, and let you begin to have faith again? Do you suppose God plans those breathers, so you have a moment of peace to regather your thoughts?

Today, I was feeling overwhelmed with stuff, and I looked up a friend. I didn’t need anyone to FIX anything. I just needed to feel heard. The last several months I’ve felt like I was “doing life alone” because the kids are busy, and friends are further away than usual, and here in the desert – more about that elsewhere – I just haven’t felt like I had much support, or encouragement. In fact, if I were being totally honest, which I do tend to be… I’d admit that I feel abandoned.

Abandoned in the struggle.

I’ve been here before. Here in this place, where I have to fight my way through to the surface. The struggle is real, and yeah… I’m alone. With God.

In the desert, seeking the face of the mountain… Have  you seen it? The mountain? The mountain where God speaks? Where He lifts you up and holds you there, safe, on higher ground?

I revealed the story (here if  you want to read) and shared the lessons being learned. But there’s so much more…

If I look deep, I’m sure I’ll find more and more. But the biggest thing I’m learning is the sense of foreboding, the fear of the unknown, isn’t real. It’s just a sense of fear that holds on for a bit, then it lets go. When it lets go, I find myself in places where the wilderness fades into the community and there are many, ready to be part of my existence.

I have many friends.

My lesson learned today. I have many friends. Sometimes they find me. Other times, I have to reach out to find them. But when the time is right, they appear.

cozy and warm

If you’re ready to be found, move over and leave room for someone else to join you on the bench, at the table, in your life. There’s plenty of room, invite someone in…

The Coolest Woman and Her Coffee

The Coolest Woman

Anyone with any good sense knows not to come between the coolest woman and her coffee… At least anyone who knows her well.

Photo by Chevanon Photography from PexelsThe most decadent, delicious, aromatic coffee can be a deep pleasure, or a searing pain, given the situation surrounding the moment. Some moments come with pain attached.

I’m a bold driven marketer, the Solution Expert, many have called me. And more often than not, I drive that market with a cup of coffee.

A recent experience sent me hunting cover for a moment or two to extract myself from a relationship that ended in bitter feelings.

Still reeling, I’m going to share it with you. Because I believe there’s cause for concern when relationships become so disposable.

Let’s visit the coolest woman and her coffee…

woman and her coffeeWhere the coolest woman and her coffee gather to meet clients, more often than not is her desk, over the internet… It’s more convenient, and she’s easiest to connect with in that manner, since most of her clients can live miles away, some in foreign countries.

Communication can be an issue though… For some.

As a business owner, the coolest woman has learned that her time is valuable, and in many cases sets boundaries for time to talk that may not be “income producing” but yet is conversation regarding her work as a consultant.

The big difference between working consultation, and friend chats, is the topic. If you’re looking for a friend, the Coolest Woman is an amazing friend and she’ll offer love over and above what you might ask.

There’s a big difference between a friendly chat and a consultation. Just like many other workers, a consultant should be paid for her knowledge and for what you take away from her. Even… If she’s JUST your friend.

Let's do coffee!

She’s the Coolest Woman on the Planet

The coolest scene in the world... My favorite mountain range.

 There are days when I look back and know how badly I messed up my life… And some of those are all night adventures, as I cry into my pillow hoping nobody hears. I don’t want anyone to know… Because they might recognize, as I do, that She’s the Coolest Woman on the Planet

That woman whom I call Mom.

No, really. You’re probably wondering how I know… Well… I’m going to tell you how I know she is the coolest woman on the planet.

She’s the one who was there, every time I needed a shoulder. Or when I just wanted to talk. She’s the one who listened, responsively, whenever I needed her to hear me.

She often played the, “and then you said?” Or “what did he say?” game and drove me absolutely crazy… Because I didn’t want to rewrite the story. I just wanted her to hear it. But she made me replay it, so I would know what happened.


She was smarter than the average mom, and far more interested in what I did than most.

Raising the Bar, Making a Difference For Better Existence and Living on the Planet

The Coolest Woman in the World is a Blogger!

By Jan Verhoeff

“Are you up for a challenge?” These questions always come when you least expect them, time just keeps marching on and the days become weeks, months, and eventually years, before you get that one big ‘thing’ accomplished in your life. So, there it was, the question of a lifetime, sitting in front of me, demanding an answer.

One of my best friends wanted to know if I was up for the challenge, and I wasn’t sure. Our hometown needs encouragement, the people need hope, and there’s got to be a way to tell them that life is still good. There’s a continuum of prosperity and they can make a difference by simply moving forward and doing what they do best. I nodded and we started working on the plan I’m about to share with all of you.

· Meeting the Challenges Head on

Political change comes and goes, but people essentially make the difference. No matter who’s at the helm of this nation, the people on the backroads of America are the ones who truly change our reality of life. Change starts at the bottom and works it’s way up. If we’re willing to raise the bar for our own lives and make a difference, the change happens.

· Determine the Change and Pursue it

Make a choice and determine what you want, then start the process by first doing, then by encouraging your friends and family to do it too. Our goal to live greener by using less packaged food was actually the start of a war on trash. In our small community, it had little to do with keeping the earth safe, and far more to do with stopping the growing mass of landfill that threatened to take over the sand hills east of town.

· Do One-Step-At-A-Time and Make it a Habit

When you start too many projects, you become overwhelmed with the massive change that just doesn’t come easy. Simply do one thing at a time, do it for 21 days, and allow it to become a habit before you add the next phase. Whether you’re the Coolest Woman on the planet, changing your hair color, or the town bottle user, change one thing at a time and do it for 21 days (which is by the way, optimum if you’re coloring your hair, not so much root you can’t cover, and the color is still brilliant).

· Don’t Do It Alone – Use the Buddy System

Seriously, we aren’t meant to go through life alone. That’s why people keep trying the marriage thingie (it works). We need friends to encourage us and help us attain our goals. We need someone there to pick up our pieces when we fall apart. Call a friend. Ask for help. Use the buddy system and work with the other coolest woman to get your own planet in order. The process works, use the buddy system.

· Focus on the Destination – Enjoy the Journey

While we stayed focused on the ultimate destination, a cleaner community, more prosperity for low income families, and better living conditions all around, we determined to make a difference along the journey too. The on-going plan was to ultimately have all those things, using a challenge that would make a difference. But the journey… We decided that in order to get to the destination, we’d need to stop along the way for some nice views, rest and relaxation, as well as refueling. Time with friends, opportunities for celebration, and some loud acknowledgment and gratitude for jobs well done would get the plan started.

With the project of making a difference well on the way, we decided it was time to share it with others. Our little town can’t possibly be the only Hometown USA that needs encouragement. So we decided to announce it to the world, and encourage others to get on board and participate.

Come by http://coolestwomanontheplanet.com and take on the challenge to make a difference in your hometown. Leave a message and tell us what your project or challenge is all about! We want to know, and if you’re not in the USA, that’s okay too. Our town just happens to be at the crossroads of the USA and we’ve chosen that as our motto “Crossroads of Connection”.

© 2008 – Jan Verhoeff

Coolest Woman on the Planet – Five Simple Steps

Coolest Woman on the Planet

By Jan Verhoeff

Jan VerhoeffI got an email today from Brad Callen. Whether you know who he is or not – doesn’t really matter; name-dropping isn’t my style. I’ve got better things to do. His email was about creating a new image, making that image sell, and promoting the image over the Internet. The purpose being to create a brand, market the brand, and promote it to sufficiency. His Brand “Coolest Guy on the Planet” works. If you look it up online, it’s being promoted left and right with new contendants vying for the title.

Finding a title, promoting it, and building it to effective acceptance world wide isn’t difficult with the Internet and current publication rates. It wasn’t a far reach to figure out the next step and create the coolest woman on the planet image At the top of the heap looking out past the rest of the world and wondering why anyone would really want to sit there looking at bad hair partings – seems the place everyone wants to be?

Now – to be honest Brad’s anti-thesis to the world is managing to top all the search engine optimizers and acquire a title, while self-proclaiming his fame. Earning his right to that title was as simple as making his site first on the Search Engine when you search for “Wall Tapestries” – plop right there he is, top of the heap, looking out on bad hair partings. I suppose it’s one step further up than delving into low hanging britches, but who really cares? When he points out that his ranking is also first for “Coolest guy on the planet” my piddly brain went to work and said, “Folks who make that search will make one more and I can determine the results of their search. Because ultimately – my purpose is to create Dynamic Content for the Internet while making a few bucks a day, sharing great wisdom, insights, and attributes – all through the production of great content online.”

So, while Brad Callen may well be the coolest guy on the planet, he’s got the wrong body parts to fill the other side of that coin. Coolest Woman on the Internet must be female. Other titles, earned through the effectiveness of brand formation and development are available; what’s your title goal? What label do you want to wear?

In Five simple steps, here’s how the brand gets started:

1. Proclaimed the title with an irresistible smile.

2. Determined to match wits with the coolest guy on the planet.

3. Wrote this article and posted it to EzineArticles.com.

4. Developed a message worthy of being read – with valuable insight to personal branding and marketing

5. Sent out an email and a few messages on some favorite sites inviting folks to view the “Coolest Woman on the Planet” with a link to blogs promoting the plan.

And that’s how it all happened.

Your mission is quite clear. You’ve read the article, probably laughed your way through it – it is rather silly to think anyone could presume such a title and have any credibility at all. Branding is a promotional ideology of marketing. Now, you’ll just have to visit the link and see if you agree? I believe it works – http://coolestwomanontheplanet.com